“[Jesus] looked up at Zacchaeus and called him by name! ‘Zacchaeus!’ he said.” (Luke 19:5a)
All of Zacchaeus’ life he’d been ridiculed and rejected, first for his appearance and then for his sinful life. But Jesus not only looked at him; Jesus also showed that he knew him by calling Zacchaeus by name. Imagine the shock Zacchaeus must have felt! How did Jesus know his name?
God not only knows where you are; he knows who you are. He knows what you’re going through, why you’re going through it, and how you feel about it. He knows you better than you know yourself. He cares about you personally.
The name Zacchaeus means “pure one.” That’s the last thing you would ever think of when you think of a corrupt government official ie a tax collector. He was anything but pure. And yet Jesus, by calling Zacchaeus by name, was saying, “Hey, pure one, I’m coming to your house today.” Jesus was affirming what he saw in Zacchaeus and what he was created for, not what he was doing at that time.
Jesus did not look at Zacchaeus, in the perspective of the world but who The Potter had created.,a masterpiece.
Not a tax collector or sinner but ZACCHAEUS , My Pure one.!!
How crazy is this.. !! The world said he is a sinner ,a good for nothing ..But Jesus did not pay heed to what the world called him but called out MY PURE ONE. 🙂
The devil might throw your sins ,your past, your weakness, your addictions at you to discourage you and to deviate you from your destiny or even when you trying to cling on to Jesus in your weakness.
You’re all guilty and stay away from GOD.. But let me tell you this..That GOD only looks at the finished work of CHRIST on the cross… nothing of your Past,sins..blah blah.. can stop HIM loving you like crazy.. or Falling in Love with you every single second..!!
Let that sync… into your system for sometime….
You may be afraid to get close to Jesus because you think he’s going to chide you for all the things you’ve done wrong or messed up. But Jesus wants to affirm you. He wants to let you know how much he loves you.
“Can a mother forget her nursing child? Can she feel no love for the child she has borne? But even if that were possible, I would not forget you! See, I have written your name on the palms of my hands” (Isaiah 49:15-16a NLT).
When Jesus died on the cross, stretched out his arms, and the soldiers put nails through his hands, your name was engraved there. When you get to Heaven, there will be no scars on anyone except Jesus. He’s going to have those scars for eternity to remind us how much he loves us, to say, “Do you think I could forget you? Not a chance! This is how much you matter to me.”
That thought is mind blowing.. Can you imagine Jesus will continue to have those scars for eternity just to remind Himself and you, How much he loves you.!!
The darling of Heaven, fairest of ten thousands, Lilly of the valley is willing to bear the scars of shame for eternity to remind you that you are worth it all…. Every single bit of it!!
In Christ ,
A letter from a father to his son on his wedding day
*Love Her More and Love Her Less*
For Karsten Luke Piper
At His Wedding to
Rochelle Ann Orvis
May 29, 1995
The God whom we have loved, and in
Whom we have lived, and who has been
Our Rock these twenty-two good years
With you, now bids us, with sweet tears,
To let you go: “A man shall leave
His father and his mother, cleave
Henceforth unto his wife, and be
One unashamed flesh and free.”
This is the word of God today,
And we are happy to obey.
For God has given you a bride
Who answers every prayer we’ve cried
For over twenty years, our claim
For you, before we knew her name.
And now you ask that I should write
A poem—a risky thing, in light
Of what you know: that I am more
The preacher than the poet or
The artist. I am honored by
Your bravery, and I comply.
I do not grudge these sweet confines
Of rhyming pairs and metered lines.
They are old friends. They like it when
I bid them help me once again
To gather feelings into form
And keep them durable and warm.
And so we met in recent days,
And made the flood of love and praise
And counsel from a father’s heart
To flow within the banks of art.
Here is a portion of the stream,
My son: a sermon poem. Its theme:
A double rule of love that shocks;
A doctrine in a paradox:
If you now aim your wife to bless,
Then love her more and love her less.
If in the coming years, by some
Strange providence of God, you come
To have the riches of this age,
And, painless, stride across the stage
Beside your wife, be sure in health
To love her, love her more than wealth.
And if your life is woven in
A hundred friendships, and you spin
A festal fabric out of all
Your sweet affections, great and small,
Be sure, no matter how it rends,
To love her, love her more than friends.
And if there comes a point when you
Are tired, and pity whispers, “Do
Yourself a favor. Come, be free;
Embrace the comforts here with me.”
Know this! Your wife surpasses these:
So love her, love her more than ease.
And when your marriage bed is pure,
And there is not the slightest lure
Of lust for any but your wife,
And all is ecstasy in life,
A secret all of this protects:
Go love her, love her more than sex.
And if your taste becomes refined,
And you are moved by what the mind
Of man can make, and dazzled by
His craft, remember that the “why”
Of all this work is in the heart;
So love her, love her more than art.
And if your own should someday be
The craft that critics all agree
Is worthy of a great esteem,
And sales exceed your wildest dream,
Beware the dangers of a name.
And love her, love her more than fame.
And if, to your surprise, not mine,
God calls you by some strange design
To risk your life for some great cause,
Let neither fear nor love give pause,
And when you face the gate of death,
Then love her, love her more than breath.
Yes, love her, love her, more than life;
Oh, love the woman called your wife.
Go love her as your earthly best.
Beyond this venture not. But, lest
Your love become a fool’s facade,
Be sure to love her less than God.
It is not wise or kind to call
An idol by sweet names, and fall,
As in humility, before
A likeness of your God. Adore
Above your best beloved on earth
The God alone who gives her worth.
And she will know in second place
That your great love is also grace,
And that your high affections now
Are flowing freely from a vow
Beneath these promises, first made
To you by God. Nor will they fade
For being rooted by the stream
Of Heaven’s Joy, which you esteem
And cherish more than breath and life,
That you may give it to your wife.
The greatest gift you give your wife
Is loving God above her life.
And thus I bid you now to bless:
Go love her more by loving less.
The famous business fable of The Chicken and the Pig is all about commitment to a project or cause.
When producing a dish made of ham and eggs, the pig provides the ham which requires his sacrifice and the chicken provides the eggs which are not difficult to produce. Thus the pig is really committed in that dish while the chicken is only involved, yet both are needed to produce the dish.
Well one of my managers made this statement during one of our meetings..It was referenced to define two types of project members by the .
Pigs: who are totally committed to the project and accountable for its outcome.
Chickens::who consults on the project and is informed of its progress.
This analogy is based upon the pig being able to provide bacon (a sacrificial offering, for which the pig must die in order to provide) versus a chicken which provides eggs (non-sacrificial).
For a Scrum project :: the Product Owner, the Scrum Master and Development Team are considered as people who are committed to the project while customers and executive management are considered as involved but not committed to the project.*Project Management jargons
It got me thinking ..How can this management principle specifically be applied to our daily life.
There’s a huge difference between involvement and commitment. If we’re merely ‘involved’ in something then we don’t have to give it our all. If it fails, it’s not the end of the world.
But if we’re ‘committed’ that’s a different matter. Then it really is do or die.
We’ve got a lot more at stake. It’s very important to know the difference.
In ham and eggs the chicken is involved but never committed, but the pig is committed.
So they can’t be relied on.
For the chicken to feed others, it merely makes the CHOICE to get INVOLVED by laying its eggs. On the other hand, for the pig to feed others it must make the ultimate SACRIFICE and COMMIT to losing its life.
Our relationships today are that of HAM and EGGS
When neither party is willing to COMMIT – Chickens
When people are just getting INVOLVED and unwilling to COMMIT in their relationship – Chickens again
When people get involved or committed in dead end relationships – Expecting Ham and Eggs but all you get is Chicken or Pigs on the plate, doesn’t serve any purpose.
1.Stop hopping and get COMMITTED.
Too many folks have an “I HOP “mentality – if it doesn’t work out, I’ll just hop over to the next relationship. It’s time to get committed. Commitment will test and show your real character. Commitment requires SACRIFICE of the MIND first, before your BODY. We can never enter any relationship without the “Commitment” mentality.
2. Stop wasting your time chasing chickens or pigs that are too chicken to involve.
Learn how to hear and wait on God. God is the ONLY source that can help you discern the difference between chickens that are involved and pigs that won’t commit. Besides the fact, you shouldn’t be with chickens to begin with, when you should be soaring with eagles.
Don’t be around pigs that are too chicken to commit or chickens who are just involved.
You are worth much much more!!
3. Don’t allow someone else to make you an option when you are the PRIORITY.
When God formed you he never made you to be someone else’s OPTION. You are the priority and deserve to be treated like royalty. Sons and Daughters of the Most High.
Psalms 139 says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made”…
In fact, who told you that you were just a chicken? Listen, chickens don’t fly, but eagles soar. Rise to your potential, spread your wings and soar.
If someone makes you an option, you got to make them a memory and nothing more. They don’t deserve your time or energy
So coming back to our question::Why should the chicken get involved if the pig won’t commit?
Asked in a different way : Why should God get INVOLVED, if you won’t COMMIT to that relationship?
God so LOVED the world that he GAVE His ONLY son (Jesus) to die for you and me. (John 3:16) “To love someone takes commitment and commitment requires a sacrifice”. Period.
Jesus made the ultimate SACRIFICE by COMMITTING to die on the cross at Calvary.
Do we not see that the union of marriage is the reflection of Christ’s commitment and union to the church?
Have we become too VAIN as a culture that it’s all about us? To satisfy our carnal desires ?
~ Lincy Hepsiba
*extracts from Chris Richardson
*Disclaimer : This blog is applicable only to believers ,who wish to exercise their union of marriage as the reflection of Christ’s commitment to the church.
But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31
A Woman gets Strength from troubles
Smiles when distressed
Grows even Stronger with Prayers and Hope.
Wishing you a very Happy Women’s day Beautiful Lady!
I was moved in my to spirit to share my experience on Waiting on the Lord and what He is teaching me in the process.
We as women are called as the spiritual binder in the family of God ,Prayer Warriors to hold the church up.
There is power in a prayer of a Woman. I’m sure most of you would agree with me. Most of us are here because of our mother, grandmother, sister, wife or any woman’s prayer.
We pray and wait on God for a lot of things.. Jobs, family, children, Marriage, Spiritual Growth etc
Waiting on the Lord is one of the most painful things to do. All I heard was, “Wait… just let God move. He will do it.” It was difficult to hold on to that mustard seed of faith to keep me stationary.
Waiting hurts as we forsake the natural and embrace the supernatural. In waiting we must stop finding the answers and soothers for our pains and boredoms and WAIT until He soothes and satisfies us.
I think it’s fair to say that most of my waiting was filled with silence! Ok…now how to perceive God then?
I had no ability to understand that He truly was there as I was there, because it was all silence.
All I did was, I continued to worship His Majesty in the silence.
The other day when I went for a fellowship prayer, a brother gave me this word Isaiah 40:31 to read.
I went to the Scripture and the word WAIT kept catching my eye, “WAIT…. Wait on the Lord… those who WAIT on God will renew their strength… those who WAIT will run and not be weary…” I heard the Spirit say, “Look it up.” I began to search for the Hebrew meaning and I was hit with awe,joy and amazement as I uncovered what God is truly saying when He says, “WAIT.”It blew my mind..
The word God used with those who wrote the original Scripture was the word “Qavah”. This Hebrew word, Qavah, means to bind together by twisting and binding. It is to collect, to gather and to expect. This twisting described is that of three cords being twisted and bound to create a strong rope. The literal meaning of the word is “to bind together like a cord.”
“To bind together like a cord” does NOT mean to tie a cord around a bundle of sticks to keep them together. Instead, the process of making a rope (cord) by twisting or weaving (binding) thin threads together to form the rope. The more strands that are twisted or woven together in a rope, the greater its strength. Ah, there’s that word strength again. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says “…a cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Most of the wedding card have this verse.
A piece of string cannot lift much weight because it does not have many strands in it. A piece of rope however can lift hundreds of pounds because it is made up of many strands. When a rope lifts or pulls a load, it stretches a little while it is working. As it stretches, the individual strands are pulled closer together. While this “stress” is on the rope, the individual strands work together to lift or pull the load. No one individual strand does all the work. If it did, it would snap. A rope’s strength comes from all the strands working together.
The literal definition of “Qavah” implies strength through numbers. The more strands in your rope, the greater its strength. Just as a rope’s strength comes from being made of many strands, so our strength comes through being united with Christ.
The “rope” of our lives gains strength by being twisted or woven or bound together with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. A rope’s strength comes from the amount of strands it is composed of. A rope’s strength remains constant even when it is not being used. When a rope is not being used, it is “waiting.” It “waits” for its owner to put it to use. When the rope is attached to a load, it draws its strength from all the strands and goes to work
“They that have all aspects of their lives intertwined and bound together with the Lord, like threads are twisted into a rope, shall exchange their meager strength for the strength of the rope, they shall rise up to meet challenges as if they had powerful wings like an eagle, they shall run through life and not be weary, they shall walk through problems and not faint.” – Anonymous
The word Qavah in the Hebrew means to gather together in oneness, to be bound together. It expresses union. The Hebrew word expresses like a vine or a plant that is twined together in the Lord, like the ropes that are twined together until it becomes one solid rope
The other word we have to look very carefully in Isa. 40:31 is the word renew. That those who Qavah on the Lord will renew their strength.
Something deep takes place at the renewal. The word renew is from the Hebrew word “Charath”. The word Charath has 4 different meanings.
1. Abolishment, Removal: That is the first aspect of what God does to you when you wait on Him. He abolishes the idols in your life. He removes, He cleanses, He breaks all those thing in your life that need to be broken away from you as you wait upon Him. The word of God is like a hammer. And as you wait upon Him He takes a hammer. He does a surgery on you.One aspect of the word renew is that you have to get rid of all those wrong things. God pierces your inner most being. One of the things that a sinner finds very hard to do is to sit alone. Whenever they sit alone their conscience is too loud for them to bear. One of the things that waiting on God does is that it builds an inner strength in your life.
2. Exchange your strength for His strength: The second thing that takes place is the word change. The word renew has a meaning of the word exchange. The word renew has a stronger meaning of restore rather than to renovate or to replace. And the Hebrew word kalak means to exchange. That is stronger than the ordinary use of the word refresh …Renew is not sending your spirit, soul and body for servicing. Renewal is stronger than that. It is just like your car is old and the engine is worn out. Then you send in your car for a brand new engine. What you did is give your car a heart transplant. That is what the word renew is. It involves an exchange. Your heart is taken and a new one is given. You exchange your strength for God’s strength. That is why the word in Isa. 40:31 tells us they shall run and not be weary. They shall walk and not faint. Because they are not going by ordinary strength. Even the young run and are weary. If you refresh your strength, when you run you can still be weary. But if you exchange your strength for the Lord’s strength you will run and never be weary because God’s strength never runs out. It is from the same word that is used to change clothes kalak the word renew or kalak means in Isa. 40:31. Take off your strength and you put on God’s strength.
3. Direction: The word kalak means to go forward. There is a fresh vision in your life. You are able to go forward with new vigor. New direction going forward; they shall mount up their wings like eagle. Eagle has an eagle vision. If you wait on God you can mount up, and see what God can see the bigger picture. If you don’t wait on God you are tied to this earth. You are a chicken; chicken can’t fly but scratch on the ground. When you are an eagle you could fly up the mountain
4. Growing up: We all continually grow in Him. And the time that you spent in being bound to the Lord, Jesus said if you abide in me and my word abide in you, you shall bear much fruit. As you abide in Him you could draw more nourishment. And by drawing more nourishment you could bear fruit. The remarkable thing about the tree is that it is planted by the rivers of water it will grow further than the tree that is planted in the rocky ground. If you are a tree planted by the water you have resources in God. You can grow further
As I meditate on this beautiful revelation: The process of waiting is like the process of weaving a cord of loves. As I WAIT on God I inherit the fullness of His plan for my life because I cannot move unless the I’m bound together with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit and the revelation that it isn’t my life or my story. It is God’s story and His Life that I am waiting to see revealed. I am but a thread in His divine plan, and unless I intertwine with His heart, I will not be present when He is fully revealed. WAITING is the process of dying so that He may live.
He desires for His Church to mesh together with knowledge of Him.
WAITING is a process of being filled with the knowledge of God so that we might understand His ways, His paths, and His purpose in creating us, and then walk in them.
Unless we know God, in an intimate friendship, we are not partakers of eternal life because eternal life is found INSIDE OF HIM
With Loads of Love
Valentine’s Day is upon us, and its chasing down single women and men like every time.. And they ..run from the thought of spending another February 14th alone.
From the “I love you my vanilla dollop or pumpkin pie or marshmallow sooooooo much!” posts that wage war on our Facebook feeds that stare right at us …
Hard Truth: let’s face it: Valentine’s Day is not an equal opportunity day of celebration like the republic day or Independence Day. At least not to me…
It’s more of celebrating My Independence day!!
That’s why I wanted to flip the coin for a change for the good of all the stunning SINGLE women and men out there…if they can relate to what I’m saying, and provide a little positive motivation and inspiration for the whole month…maybe!! Guidelines to survive the season at ease…!!
And the reason to why you have all the rights to celebrate YOU and YOUR independence.
If Valentine’s Day or month is the “Day or Month of Love” isn’t this the absolute perfect time to love yourself a little more fiercely and passionately? Go on dates with yourself… Pamper yourself at the SPA or go shopping and buy stuff for yourselves… or get that wacky haircut you always wanted.
And to remind yourself of how strong spirited, and independent woman you are despite the judgments thrown at you from every side?
To celebrate yourself and your precious life God has given to cherish and make the best use of your God given singleness!
So if you’re sad and struggling with the fact that another Valentine’s is dawning right on you and you’re not yet at a table for two…Muttering “Why Me.. Again??”
Here are a few reasons to why you need to celebrate “You” this season!
If you can relate … Brilliant!! Some I have heard or read somewhere and are apt, some are mine and some are just facts
· You need to love yourself before you ask someone else to love you
· “Good Enough” is not good enough for you.
· You’ve decided that whether or not love arrives in its glory… you are still gonna thrive
· Your worth, happiness, self confidence, identity does not depend on your relationship status in real or reel life… or even on face book.
· You trust God’s perfect timing and you know every moment of the wait is preparing you for the one who have been waiting for all your life
· For You… settling is not an option
· Before you are ready to wear a diamond, you want to become one.
· You can buy your own roses ,chocolates and teddy bears
· You are too fabulous to settle
· Because You are waiting for God to bring you the right one
· Because there are still things you meant or want to accomplish as a single!
· You have standards and won’t settle for less
· You know your divine destiny and cant compromise on your calling
· You haven’t found “THE” person. (Or “lobster,” as Phoebe Buffay in F.R.I.E.N.D.S would say 😉 )
· You are unique, talented, purposeful, meaningful people with hugely important lives and destinies.
· Your unattached, unencumbered single lives can serve MORE enriching purpose than your future married lives, because you will be able to wholeheartedly and without distraction.. Pursue your passions, your calling, and your dreams. ..Your greater purpose..Involved in your ministry without anything attached
· You can go out meet new people, enjoy the sun and sand without any inhibitions
· You Adam is still sleeping and hasn’t still woken up to recognize you
· The man maybe stuck on a tree or hit by a truck or stuck in traffic(If Bangalore)
· You want to stop waiting and start LIVING.
· You are brave ,you’d rather walk alone than with someone who is unworthy of you
· You are the cake, relationship is the icing.. With or without the icing, a cake is still a cake.
· You’ve created a life that you love and you don’t need to be rescued from it
· You are independent and can take care of your self
· You will love when you are ready and not when you are lonely
· You’re not willing to trade in your dignity in order to chase after any man. And your dignity and self-esteem are never worth surrendering, for anyone or anything.
· You realize that you are worth being pursued. You deserve a man who is willing to do whatever it takes to capture your heart. You are giving your life, mind , legs and your heart a break
· You only chase dreams not People
· You are an asset to a man not a liability
· You know that A man who wants to be with a woman will always be running TOWARDS her and you don’t have to run towards him
· Your life looks like a metal mesh already that needs to be sorted out before you get into another mesh
· The smarter the woman is, it’s more difficult to find a man!
· You are not ready to give in time and energy into a relationship
· You are yet to wear the floating gear of “mature mentally emotionally” before you plunge into the river called “Marriage and Commitment”
· You know your identity, worth and value and would give to a MAN who deserves it . And handle with care!!
· You know for the fact that : A Man takes a wife and he needs to pursue you to get to you and not the other way around.
· You know Chemistry or the outward appearance does not and should not outweigh character, it’s like having a beautifully wrapped box that’s empty
· You did everything right and still ended up in the wrong place, with the wrong person and now learnt how to navigate through
· You know that if A MAN who really, truly loves you will always show up for you face to face and admit that he means business, hangs on through the wind and waves and turbulence and refuses to let go. He is strapped and locked in !!
These are a few reasons why I feel you should let your hair down and enjoy this season.
A season to celebrate you!! Work on , cherish, admire the single YOU!!
First on my checklist .. Get my hair dyed RED! To celebrate the season of Love!
Get this right…
“A woman who creates a full, joyful, meaningful, positive life for herself is a lot more appealing and attractive than a woman who waits around on a man to do it for her”
You don’t need a man to create a life for you .. You are strong and invincible.
You have an identity in Christ.. You are a complete person!!
A relationship can someday ADD to that, but it cannot and will not ever define or replace your greater purpose.
There is something you and only you are meant to do with your life that isn’t dependent upon a relationship to make it happen.
You don’t need a significant other to lead a significant life
Don’t let anyone tell you who you are !!
You are not “romantically challenged” (I get that a lot) !!. It simply means that you haven’t found my person. Period.
You have to stop blaming yourselves.. And feeling broken and analyze what went wrong
Walk in freedom of the opinions of others.
I understand the journey of a single woman is not an easy one, but remember you have the power to welcome the unknown with the confidence that nothing can pin you down.
Embrace your freedom as the gift from above…you pave your own way…you decide what and how you want to do and you need no permission from anyone to do so.
There is zeal and an Unquenchable fire inside every single woman that can never be tamed or even understood by the closed minded people around …an unwillingness to settle…an independence that can’t be surrendered.. I hear you
I’m well aware that you are not afraid to fall…because each time you fall, you know God’s got your back. You know you won’t stay down there and mull over there… but rise up stronger and wiser, dust it off and move on!
There is a wisdom you possess that comes from surviving a broken heart, picking up the shattered pieces and moving on…and you don’t wanna take the road again.
You rather be alone and happy than get into the clutches of something you are not ready for.
You have the confidence to enter into a room accompanied by no one but yourself.
I understand that everyone seems to want to meddle with the life of the woman who refuses to settle – Everyone ..I mean everyone, people’s names you haven’t even heard in your entire life ; setting you up on endless dates with guys whom you have no interest in, calling you “desperate” or “lonely” or “too picky,” or asking: “What’s wrong with her?”
Worse is to hear that “You have very high standards!!”
Gosh!! I would like to ask: “What’s not right with her? Yes!! She has High Standards, It’s not a crime …coz She is Awesome, Bold and Beautiful..She knows her identity”
To take the uncertain solitude path with bravery and faith is something to be applauded and be proud of.
I would call it bold, courageous and unique and not sad , pathetic, clueless or weak in any way.
Is it too much to ask, to expect the society we live to celebrate US and our choices we make to fix ourselves or even find ourselves before we take the huge step of marriage or a relationship?
Or To even give us little credit and cheer us “ single woman” for being courageous enough to search for ourselves instead of endlessly searching for a mate or the perfect husband?
Marriage is a beautiful, wonderful and sacred … God institutes marriage..He brings together and builds.. No doubt! When He can make MAN out of dust and breathe into him… How hard is it to bring him to you ??
But until it arrives, shouldn’t we give ourselves permission to THRIVE and work on ourselves and have fun??
Don’t know about you, but
I LIKE being able to spend money on myself without asking anyone’s permission.
I LIKE to take myself out on a weekly or monthly date to the coffee shop or the movies and spend time in my own company.
I LIKE staying in my pjs all day long and watching “Friends” “Notebook” “Ps I Love You” marathon while eating pasta, sipping on lemon soda that I made and not feeling guilty about it.
I LIKE not having to get my hair, eyebrows or my nails done if I don’t want to.
I LIKE taking weekend trips when I feel like.
I LIKE that I don’t have to ask anyone to Dye my hair .. Like I already did !!
I LIKE the freedom that comes with I‘m doing it because “I WANT TO” not “I HAVE TO”
And while I’d love to eventually have someone join me on my journey, but I refuse to stay grounded or tied till that someone joins me on that journey of Life.
So I want to encourage you, my beautiful single ladies to start to see yourselves for the truly brave, empowered, sassy, independent women that you are.
Rip out the words “Needy”“Desperate” “Picky” “High Maintenance” from your mind or from your ecosystem because we….single women, ARE NEITHER.
We are tough. We are bold. We are fierce. We face the world with a smile…and we don’t back down or step back or break down.
If we do.. We grow stronger … We are Diamonds
Coal under Pressure makes Diamonds!
We don’t let the idea of going to dinner alone intimidate us.
We don’t let the threat of bumping into an ex haunt us.
We walk a path that many fear to tread upon…a path that forces us to constantly step out of our comfort zones…
I might sound harsh or come out too strong .. Bottom Line is ..
Submit to God, and tell the enemy to get lost. Choose to think about blessings God has showered on your life instead of things that will weigh you down, and Fix your eyes on God.
Let God Lead in every area of your life, trusting in His unfailing love for us.
God has complete control over your life… Our God is more than able, and He will work everything out for good, He is pretty good at His job..! He definitely knows what He is doing..
At the right time he will let your paths cross..! Coz He is your match maker and painting your love life.. He is not done yet !! It’s not over unless He tells its over.!
So chillax and Breathe ON!!.
Romans 8:28, And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
With much love and dash of Sass,
Every time my girls and I come together . I would love singing this song together. my ultimate favorite song
It means so much.
I aint a big fan of Hymns but this song is just heart stirring especially this verse
“My sin – O the bliss of this glorious tho’t –
My sin, not in part, but the whole,
Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more:
Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!”
I would always end up singing this part during our assemblies in college. Its heartwarming and my eyes would well up with tears everytime I sing it.
My sin was nailed to the cross, not it part but the whole.
Our God is a God of Fullness and completion
IT IS WELL WITH MY SOUL
When peace like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll –
Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say,
It is well, it is well with my soul.
Tho Satan should buffet. tho trials should come,
Let this blest assurance control,
That Christ hath regarded my helpless estate,
And hath shed His own blood for my soul.
My sin – O the bliss of this glorious tho’t –
My sin, not in part, but the whole,
Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more:
Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!
And, Lord, haste the day when my faith shall be sight,
The clouds be rolled back as a scroll:
The trump shall resound and the Lord shall descend,
“Even so” – it is well with my soul.
It is well (it is well)
With my soul (with my soul),
IT IS WELL, IT IS WELL WITH MY SOUL.
Horatio G. Spafford
1828 – 1888
The story behind these words are is incredibly saddening,
but also very empowering to read of the strength of the Spafford family.
This hymn was written after many traumatic events in Spafford’s life.
The first was the death of his son at the age of four by scarlet fever.
Shortly after that the Great Chicago Fire took place and ruined him financially-
he had been a very successful lawyer.
Then in 1873 Horatio Spafford planned on traveling to Europe
with his family aboard the SS’Ville du Havre’,
but sent his family ahead since he was delayed by business.
While crossing the Atlantic, the ship that his family was on sank rapidly
after a collision with a sea vessel called the ‘Loch Earn’.
All four of Spafford’s daughters perished while his wife, Anna,
was saved by a plank which floated beneath her unconscious body and propped her up.
She sent Horatio the now famous telegram, “Saved alone. . .”
Shortly afterwards, Spafford boarded the next ship out of New York to meet his grieving wife.
During his voyage, the captain of the ship had called him to the bridge.
A careful reckoning has been made,” he said,
“and I believe we are now passing the place where the de Havre was wrecked.
The water is three miles deep.”
Horatio Spafford then returned to his cabin
and was inspired to write the lyrics of his great hymn.
It takes incredible faith and courage to acknowledge God in our piercing Pain or in our rocking boat.
Every time I face situations where I can’t handle by myself,
I sing out this song and His presence blankets me and I have this calm assurance that
God is above all our problems and our situations.
Nothing is impossible by GOD.
Remember Bravest and Strongest Warriors are sent to Fight the Toughest Battle
When your heart is overwhelmed
Lead yourself to the ROCK that is higher than you!
It would be extremely difficult to predict how we would react under circumstances
similar to those experienced by Horatio and his wife,
but we do know that the God who sustained them would be with us
and keep us in the palm of His hand.
The trials Horatio and Anna endured only made them stronger in their faith
and their character.
No matter, what difficulties overtake us,
May we be able to say it’s well with my soul!!
~ parts of the song extracted
As the world strides forward to a more equal view on gender, a lot is still to be done to change even the mindset of educated folk. The distinction of gender starts from when the baby is in its mother’s womb.
Even today a few educated parents and grandparents to-be secretly wish they are blessed with the male child. Priests bless the couple for a male child. Several well wishers also do the same. More over when the mother-to-be is in the hospital and in labour, nurses wish the mother for a boy child. When the baby is born, we also see the celebration of a male child to be louder to that of a female child. ‘Are beta hua hai! mooh meetha karo!’ These happen at the large posh birthing hospitals in cities like Bangalore, Delhi and Mumbai!
A child’s destiny is determined by whether his or her father contributed an X or Y chromosome. Fate decides: Pink or blue clothes. Guns or dolls. The provider or the homemaker. Female infanticide!
Gender bias is so deeply ingrained in our social system that the discrimination begins from the time a couple plans a baby. Today, science has advanced so far that it is possible to separate male and female sperm so as to predetermine the sex of a child.
The birth of a baby boy warrants a celebration whereas a baby girl may not be extended the same warm welcome. Despite the fact that India has crossed the billion mark in population, there will still be families with five daughters and the mother trying desperately to give birth to a son.
The plight of educated women who are so frustrated because despite their qualifications, they are ultimately expected to fall into the traditional mould of wife, mother and homemaker.
A friend of mine was sent to the best schools and she has done her MBA from a prestigious business school, but she is under intense pressure from her parents to get married.
She says, “It doesn’t seem to matter to my parents that I’m doing so well in my job and that I have certain career aspirations. Marriage just does not figure in my plan right now. And I just know that they will see no harm in my being expected to give up my career if my prospective husband makes that a condition.”
Investing in girls is key to eliminating poverty and creating a safer, brighter future for everyone. When girls are educated, healthy and empowered, they pull themselves, their children and their communities out of poverty.
When you empower a boy, you raise a good family. I believe when you empower a girl, she’ll change the community around her in turn the world.
Today, we have women astronauts, women prime ministers, even women wrestlers, but there are still millions of women who face these double standards at every juncture of their lives.
For instance, I’ve heard in my family that they would mind inviting the daughters who have married into different families for a wedding but not mind inviting married sons of the same family.
Feminists have been shouting themselves hoarse, demanding equality for women. Some people believe that women and men can never be equal, just different.
Yes, but different does not necessarily mean inferior or lesser in any way.
When I see instances around me of educated, successful mothers with good careers raising their children with a gender bias, it hurts, because when children once have a block in their minds about their capabilities, they set a glass ceiling for themselves which becomes very hard to break.
I once attended a kid’s sports competition where some kids were participating in “doctor’s race”. I was shocked to see that all boys were dressed as doctors and all girls as nurses. Somewhere in their little minds, we are instilling a bias towards what they can achieve in life.
We also see leading clothing brands stereotyping kids wear prints like ‘Smart as daddy’, ‘Pretty as mommy’ – Why can’t be kids ‘smart as mommy’?
I’ve heard examples like – oh my son is really active.. He loves to play in the park.. Of course he is a boy and is very outdoorsy… little do they know daughters loves gymnastics and can perform acts that many such sons cannot perform. Oh my son is very bold.. He is a typical boy! little do they know, or rather pretend as they are unaware that there are much bolder girls out there winning Nobel prizes and inspiring the world. Why do we secretly celebrate our boys?I’ve also heard many parents make comments like – ‘oh my boy is growing up… look at the way he is bold with the girls!’ – No wonder we still have eve teasers and the more so horrendous crimes happening in our society and it pains to see the nirbhaya rapists go out free on this day!
Then there is the false notion of greatness at home. Clearing the dinner table is not a boy’s job, let the daughters do it. We as parents and individuals are instilling differences about who should do what. There is no job in the world which is lesser than another. When women can do all what men can, and even more of those tasks like giving birth that men cannot, then why the gender based job differences?We also see that parents ‘invest’ in their male child, send them to better schools, to professional courses and do whatever it takes to make them succeed compared to their sisters… probably because they hope it pays off and they would be taken care of when they grow old.I’ve also had an instance when a relative advised me not to get into an engineering college as it would be very difficult for a girl to get through it and anyways at the end of it I would get married, so what’s the point of the entire struggle? Well, today I would say its well worth the struggle; I’m independent and well equipped!
WE are responsible for raising our children equally. Every time we talk or act, it is important to ensure we are neutral and not unconsciously instilling differences and glass ceilings in their minds. And it’s more important to voice your opinion when you see instances like these happening around you!
How a father treats his wife and daughters will affect their potential and life choices, but it will also affect his sons too. Because the family is where we first learn how to be a male and female, a father who does his fair share of domestic work, who values and educates his children equally, who cuddles his sons and daughters and treats his wife as an equal will have a powerful impact on how his son grows up to be a man and treats his own family. Social change begins at home.
Parents have to learn to adopt an androgynous attitude towards bringing up their children. They shouldn’t panic if their son prefers to play with dolls or their daughters decide they don’t want to marry till they are thirty. Parents need to give both sons and daughters the chance to live their lives free from the fetters of gender bias.
This is my heart felt cry… To the society I live in!
Give the women in your life a chance to live !
– Lincy Hepsiba